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Donald Trump: My Spiritual Teacher

Donald Trump is my Spiritual Teacher

In the last several days, I’ve been contacted by many concerned citizens who are struggling with coming to terms with Donald Trump as the next President of the United States. For the last two years, so many of us in the mystical and metaphysical  world have focused our attention on using our gifts and abilities to think about the election. Many of us—including myself---saw Hilary Clinton as the winner of the election. I made many predictions that were completely on target:  her health concerns almost to the exact day, predicted the rise of a populist “unknown” candidate, predicted the racial tensions, the protests, the unfolding with her e-mails, and even the DNC turning against Bernie Sanders---but I still saw her being elected. But as the election came closer, the energy did seem to move away from her---free will, intent, and the energetic metabolism of the country was enough to sway the results. Americans were exposed to some of the inner working of politics, and felt uncomfortable. The proverbial curtain was open, and the backstage was not pretty.

There are so many moments in history where our lives seem completely shifted in a matter of seconds: the events of September 11th,  shootings such as Sandy Hook and Orlando, the events in Paris, the Tsunami of 2004, and other world tragedies. These events are always coupled by a feeling that the world has changed forever. I deal with this all the time in my practice when I sit with a client after the death of a loved one, diagnosis of an illness, or a catastrophic event in their personal lives. We also experience this feeling during great moments of human history—such as Hilary Clinton being elected as the first female candidate for a major party,  the supreme court ruling on gay marriage, and Barack Obama becoming the first African American president. In times like this, we have a psychological, physiological and emotional reaction that we can feel throughout our bodies--we know nothing will ever be the same. This in fact is one of the moments.

But, there’s a catch—the result has not been finalized yet. Many of us feel there’s a message that bad behavior has been rewarded—the spoiled brat won the prize. We don’t know yet how this will play out. All of us—myself included (though I will save that for a later post)—have a vague hunch and sense of things to come, though in many ways, our fear (or excitement) may be clouding that. Will Trump’s presidency turn out to be a tragedy we must live to learn from for years ahead? Or will it turn out to give opportunities for both sides to come together. On one hand, it seems that America has voted to backdate the course of history by voting for a platform that includes anti-LGBT rhetoric, lack of concern for the environment, and building a wall that will cost America billions of dollars and has not a chance of working anyways. I fear that Trump has too often given full license to misogyny, homophobia, racism, and discrimination, either implicitly or explicitly. On the other hand, America voted to go against a certain system of politics, and vote for the underdog. We turned our back on an era of old school politics and endless accounts of corruption. Will Trump prove to be the president for the people he claims to be? Or will he follow suit with lies and secrecy, like other politicians, but not showing us his taxes, flopping sides on issues, and his volatile personality. So, as Donald Trump grapples with his destiny as a President, we must also grapple with our own. What destiny lies ahead for us? And how will we experience Donald Trump? What is our destiny for dealing with him in our soul and psyche.

We must understand that our experiences in life are a series of mystical and spiritual experiences. Leaders such as Obama, Clinton, or Trump are not random—they don’t just appear out of nowhere. Just like people in our family, our animals and pets, our ex boyfriends and current boyfriends, people show up for a reason. These are people that we have created. They fill a psychic need within us. They form from our collective fears, hopes, desires, and wishes. In many ways, we attract and create them. And to some extent, a sense of them exist in all of us. Everyone of us has a part of Donald Trump and Hilary Clinton in our psyche. Our reality as a country has attracted Donald Trump as the perfect leader for this time. This may be hard for some us to swallow, but it is a metaphysical truth---indeed, it can be absolutely no other way.

Donald Trump, take it or leave it, is here to teach us something. For all of us, he will be a spiritual teacher. I imagine that his presidency will challenge us, frustrate  us, enlighten us, and move us. It may not be revealed for many years or even decades why he came at this time, but I do believe that he has manifested at this time in history to teach us specific things. Our live in this world is not always rational, unilateral, predictable, or sensible—we live in a world where miracles happen, and sometimes, they don’t always make sense. With Trump, we may love the lessons he teaches us or we may not. They may be subtle, or they may be intense—but there is not a question in my mind that God and Spirit had an absolute role in choosing Donald Trump as our President. While at first I watched the results pour in and thought to myself, “God, how could you?” I now am of the thinking “God how could you not have?”

How do we make sense of all that is happening? As one mass of us marches into chaos and disaster, another large body of us marches forward into a time where they believe they will be vindicated, understood, and known. It will require a spiritual mindset, for both sides, to move forward in a positive way. Some of us will say, “But I’d rather learn this a different way.” That’s Ok—one of the truths about life is that you don’t always get to pick how you learn lessons, you only get to learn them. My father beat me up daily as a child, and it taught me compassion; my best friend betrayed me, and it taught me to use my intuition when I select who to be friends with. Other times, people surprised me. My roommate one year at college was a conservative white supremacist, and by second term, was an open-minded person who repented for his hateful thoughts. One of my college boyfriends taught me grace under pressure by dating him for 7 months while his mother battled, and lost the battle, with pancreatic cancer. At the time, none of these people were people that I picked to learn lessons with. But they all happened. And I learned.

 Here are 5 lessons I’ve already learned by Donald Trump being our President Elect:  

1) Keep an Open Heart, Open Mind. Even if you feel completely disconnected to the platforms that Trump stands for, you must understand that Trump is now the way the world will see us at some level. We must give him an opportunity. I can hear some of your reactions now as I type this:

“But, I don’t want to have an open mind---I’ve seen how nasty he can be!”

“Open mind? No way! I’m not letting my defenses down.”  

“I don’t owe him anything!”

We don’t have to accept some of the things he had said. We don’t have to approve of his positions on everything. We don’t have to live without concern about some of his platforms and ideas. But, we must have an open heart and open mind. Not only for Donald Trump, but for our fellow countrymen. We must speak about our intentions, too. We must put them out there. We must create the country that we want. Desire is a prayer, intention is a prayer, affirmation is a prayer. Our collective thoughts will ultimately manifest our reality—not Donald Trump. He is one person. No matter what he says or does, ultimately, we live in America, where creativity, individuality, and freedom are cherished and protected. We have a systems of checks and balances, and we are not run by a dictator. Americans will not hand over their country for some of the things he is selling.

We should root for his success. Now, that does not mean we root for his success as being hateful to women, Muslims, or gays, as he has shown tendencies. Absolutely not. In fact, we refute that thinking completely and condemn it. Instead, we root for him to put aside his ego and shadow, and we pray and hope for him to have an awakening. We pray that his many good characteristics take over his soul. We pray that he is a leader for healing, not for division. We pray that he has grace in his heart. We pray that he allows a miracle to enter his heart. Absolutely we do.

2) Stay in the moment. We need to turn our attention inward and focus on what we need to see in the world. If Donald Trump is any lesson to anyone, he is a lesson that a sample size of one is a strong sample size.  We all have a voice, and we can all be a strong voice in this country. Double down. Speak your mind. Be truth. But we also can’t focus on the what ifs. We have to focus on what we can do today, in this moment, to make sure we are loving and kind people. That doesn’t mean we are complacent or foolish. It means we are realistic. We vow to use every moment, of every day, to manifest the reality we want to see in the world, knowing full well that love, light, and kindness always win—even if it doesn’t seem like that at first.

 

3) Embrace change. I say this with caution—but I feel it in my gut—the system of our world is broken. There are so many things that are completely archaic and no longer serve us. We are living in the age of Aquarius. We are living in a time where we psychically can see, feel, and experience so much. There has never been a time in modern history where we have been so obsessed with the inner workings of our mind, the life behind our eyes, and our individual quest for knowledge and spiritual truth. Because of this major shift, old ways of doing things no longer work. Regardless if you agree with his policies or not, our system of politics will never be the same after this, and living in a post “Donald Trump” era will require that completely change many aspects of our country---and I truthfully feel that this restructuring of our country will happen quicker with Trump in office than with Clinton. This has very little to do with him as a leader, but more the energetic wave he has brought with him. Does this mean we will agree or like everything he does or says? Probably not. Like every leader, he will make many mistakes and have many flaws. But I can’t help but wonder if this is part of God’s bigger plan to completely implode a system that wasn’t working anyways.

4) The Golden Rule—No matter what side of the fence you stand on, our nation is completely divided. Clinton supporters are stricken with grief and sadness, while Trump supporters are empowered with vindication and power. Race wars have torn our nation apart, protestors burning buildings, schools and movie theatres have become places of terror, and the middle class has been neglected. Now is a time to follow the golden rule—treat others as you want to be treated. Love your neighbor. Honor your truth, but don’t hold grudges. Give with no strings attached. Pay love forward. At times, Trump has shown a side of himself that seems volatile, unstable, and unkind. But this should not stop us from how we deal with others in our daily life.

5) Community and leadership are powerful vehicles. Now is a great time to seize the day. Stay close with people that share your beliefs, goals, and visions for the world, but also be willing to listen to the other side. Organize. Stay connected to your spirituality. Lightworkers need to unite. Remember that spirituality is where we are all one. It’s where we are all connected. As I have said many times in my course, until American’s see their government as an extension of their spiritual practice, we will not succeed there. In a time like this, there will be many opportunities to lead and grow. Look for them. Ask for them. And let’s be honest—within a few weeks, many of use will return to our complacent places of not caring as much. The show will go on, and we will forget how this election lit a fire in us. But for a small group of us—and hopefully one that is larger than before—we will be permanently moved to be actively engaged in our community, asking questions, and demanding answers.

 

When I look to the next four years, I see a time that will question many things that we thought we knew, but will also be an opportunity for great healing, growth and learning. Donald Trump will be grilled and questioned on almost everything. He will need to change his rhetoric or he will not successful. He will need to be open-minded, progressive, and seeking to unify the nation. He will need to have a spiritual awakening (and to be honest, if Clinton had won, she would have needed to awaken as well). But hoping for Donald Trump to fail or clinging to a hope he somehow will not make it into office, will not help us. Instead of hoping the car crashes into a cement wall, let’s hope that it goes in another direction, missing the wall entirely.  As much as I do see moments of confusion and chaos ahead, I oddly feel a sense of calmness and peace. We will have differences—and remember, that these don’t always come out of ill will, they come out of having different positions and ideas. In the coming days, I will pray for Donald Trump and his family. As I tune into the energy, I can feel that he excited, but scared---I think it is only starting to “click” for him what has happened. Even with many of the folks that voted for him, I can energetically sense the confusion and buyers remorse. But this is our history now. We must move forward, and we should do so in a way that embodies grace and love.

Donald Trump, I’m praying for you and rooting for you from the bottom of my heart.

With love and grace in my heart,

Thomas 

Transformation Package

Dear Friends,

As Summer is ending, I hope you spent some time with family and friends. I spent time catching up on work, seeing family, still seeing clients, and planning the rest of my year. I also fit in some time for walking by the ocean. I’ve been lucky to be spending a lot of time near the ocean, which I find enormously peaceful. I will be doing a few events this Fall/Winter, so if you are curious, visit HERE to learn more about my upcoming events.

As I remain focused on spiritual healing, I’ve created a special package for you. To make this program very special, we are limiting it to ONLY 100 people. So, we can only sell 100 of these packages, and this will be on a first come, first serve basis. Each package is only $99.00.

 
This Transformation Package includes:
1.  Four Downloadable Meditation MP3s. These are SPECIAL meditations that I have personally recorded. Each meditation is designed for a specific reason and has specific intentions, purposes, and results.

Across the Rainbow Meditation - Thomas’ easy, 18 minute meditation that is designed to help you connect with your own loved ones to receive guidance, awareness, and insight into your own life and core questions.  Thomas uses this classic meditation that he personally recorded EVERY DAY in his private practice.  A great MP3 that provides an uplifting message from Thomas John for anytime you need an uplifting message of hope.

Fruit Tree Meditation - Seeking an answer to a question? Need to connect with your guides for divine guidance? This special, newly designed meditation by Thomas John will help you directly connect with a high powered divine being that works through communicating with the Intuition Fruit Tree. This is a very special meditation and we have received tremendous amounts of positive feedback.

Vibrational Enhancer Meditation - This mediation will help you raise your vibration to help you more fluidly connect with your loved ones and your guides.  A great MP3 that provides an uplifting message from Thomas John for anytime you need an uplifting message of hope.

Ancestral Karma Meditation - Do you feel like you were BORN into problems, blockages, and issues that simply are not yours?  The meditation is divided into three parts to help you clear blocks with your ancestors, send them healing energy and healing light, and complete womb to womb healing

2.  Match Made in Heaven Webinar - September 24 from 12-3PM,  EST
Do you feel like you are missing the boat on relationships? Do you struggle with understanding what your blocks might be? Have you had relationships that just never worked out? Or do you feel like you met the one, but the relationship isn't working out? 

This special webinar will energize you to find the ONE! I am presenting brand new material in this webinar---never before released, and never talked about before in other webinars! 

3.  Intuition Worksheet Questionnaire
This worksheet helps you figure out what type of intuitive and psychic abilities you may have without realizing it.

4.  A special HOT TOPICS course series. This includes 6 30 minute, easy to digest courses where I teach on topics. These are easily downloadable and you can save them and have them forever! Each mini course has 15-20 minutes of teaching, and then a short exercise. These aren't live calls, so you can access them whenever, wherever, and even share them with your friends! 

Topics for these recordings are: 
·      How to Be Your Own Medium: How to go from beyond just “feeling” your loved ones, to getting actual   MESSAGES (NEVER BEEN TAUGHT BEFORE) 
·      How to Differentiate Between Angels, Guides, and Loved Ones
·      How the Chakras are Connected to Intuition (ALL NEW MATERIAL!) 
·      Psychometry: How to Feel the Energy of an Object
·      Chord Cutting: How to Get Rid of Negative Energy
·      Money Karma: How to remove your Fear of Abundance

These are downloadable mp3 courses, and you will have them to keep forever! Special teachings I have never done before on brand new topics---I've never taught over 90% of this material! If you have taken my courses before, this stuff is ALL new! 

5.   A special two one hour VIP “Readings Only” group call where I will take “reading questions” and do “mini readings” throughout the calls. These calls will have NO teaching on it, and will only be about readings for folks. After each reading, I will summarize the “take-away” message from the call, so each reading will also present an opportunity for individual learning.  This is an opportunity to get more time with me to answer your questions. I will take intuitive and mediumship requests during this two hour, readings only call. Calls will take place on October 7 @ 7:30pm, EST and October 26 @ 7:30PM, EST.

 
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As you can see, I have created a package that is designed to help you develop your psychic abilities, become more aware of your surroundings, and open up spiritually, emotionally, and energetically. This is a package of materials that I feel will greatly advance your healing and personal development. The price of this program is only $99.00.

We are only making this package available until September 15th, so if you want to jumpstart on your healing, you should act soon. Call Barbie or myself in the office at 347-637-8592 or e-mail This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it.   We are ready to speak to you and take any questions you might have.

Warmly, 
Thomas John
 
PS: Act in the next 48 hours, and you could qualify for a 30 minute, PRIVATE PHONE READING WITH ME!   This will be a over the phone reading or Skype Reading. We are going to randomly select 5 people from ALL the purchases and we will announce 5 people who will be upgraded to receive ALL the special goodies listed above, as well as a 30 minute private reading! 

Are You a Super Psychic

When I was a child, I wanted to be Batman. I was drawn to his superhero status, black cape, and ability to beat out all the “bad guys”. In fact, for my fourth grade project when we all had to write about what we wanted to be when we grow up, I wrote a report about how I wanted to be Batman.  

But the truth is---we are all slightly superhuman. We all are born with abilities to see, know, and understand beyond. Call it gut instinct, call it psychic powers, or call it intuition---some of the world's most successful entrepreneurs, spiritual teachers, and celebrities use this “force” to guide them in their important decisions. 

So, are we all psychic? The answer is yes---we are all psychic. It's actually something that is innate in all of us. In fact, most of the time, we might be accessing our intuition without even realizing it.  

Here are a few tips if you're thinking of trying to activate more of your psychic Spidey senses.

1) Intuition is quick and easy. My favorite spiritual teacher, Caroline Myss, often says that intuition has no narrative. It doesn't come from a place of your childhood wounds or your inner trauma. It's a simple knowingness. It's quick, and to the point. It's that moment where you meet someone, and something doesn't feel right. Save the life story for your shrink's couch and keep your intuitions brief and to the point. 

2) Intuition needs a target. The more specific you can focus on something, the more honed in your intuitive response will be. When people come for readings with me and ask questions like, "What do you see for me?" it's similar to someone saying "Tell me about history" or "Explain science to me". The question is almost too broad to really bring in anything useful. Instead, I encourage clients in readings to form specific questions they want to ask Spirit. When you’re practicing at home, make sure you do the same. Focus on a specific person, place, or thing that you want to get an intuitive feeling about.  

3) Keep a journal. Intuition is devoid of space or time. That means that when something comes forward, you need to make note of it. Often times, even in readings that I do for clients, predictions might happen, but they happen in a slightly different way, or during a different period of time, than one might imagine. If you keep track of impressions or images that you receive over time, you will be able to look back at your intuitive hits and see where things came to pass.  

Until next time---stay super psychic.  

Thomas John 

PS: I designed a meditation a few months ago to help you focus on your intuition. The guided meditation takes you on a journey and connects you with your guides and get an answer about specific question. A lot of folks have found that it jumpstarted their intuition! If you would like a "FREE" copy of the MP3 sent to you email This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it. .

Transformation Offer

Dear Friends,
 
The summer is upon us, and I hope you are getting to spend some time with family and friends. I am spending time catching up on work, seeing family, still seeing clients, and planning the rest of my year. I am also making sure I fit in some time for walking by the ocean and a couple of scoops of ice cream. I’ve been lucky to be spending a lot of time near the ocean, which I find enormously peaceful. I will be doing a few events this summer, so if you are curious, visit HERE to learn more about my upcoming events. 
 
Even though the summer is a time of relaxing on the beach and sipping lemonade, it’s also a great time to get focused on your spiritual healing and transformation. 
 
I’ve created a special package for you, however, this offer EXPIRES July 15th, 2016, so you are going to want to reserve yours ASAP. Also, to make this program very special, we are limiting it to ONLY 100 people. So, we can only sell 100 of these packages, and this will be on a first come, first serve basis. Each package is only $97.00.

 
 The Summer Package includes:
 
1.     Access to my livestream series “The Intuition Experience” which begins August 1: This series is a five-part series, with each session lasting 90 minutes. 
 
The topics are:
 
August 1: Psychic Grounding: 5 New Ways to Spiritually Ground Yourself
August 8: Intuition and Manifestation: Special Guest Colette Baron-Reid
August 15: Spiritual Direction: Special Guest Caroline Myss
August 22: Connecting to the Spirit World Through Dreams
August 29: What Happens When We Die? Understanding the Other Side
 
The comprehensive series is interactive and easy to connect. You also get a recording of the call so you can re-listen to the teaching material whenever you want! Each call consists of teaching at the beginning, and then we finish up with several readings. I pull callers up randomly and I give them a reading.  I work with a dedicated team so my Livestream is done in a professional and consistent way, and they are there to answer your questions. 
 
2.     Four Downloadable Meditation MP3s. These are SPECIAL meditations that I have personally recorded. Each meditation is designed for a specific reason and has specific intentions, purposes, and results
 
Across the Rainbow Meditation - Thomas’ easy, 18 minute meditation that is designed to help you connect with your own loved ones to receive guidance, awareness, and insight into your own life and core questions.  Thomas uses this classic meditation that he personally recorded EVERY DAY in his private practice.  A great MP3 that provides an uplifting message from Thomas John for anytime you need an uplifting message of hope.
 
Grief Buster Meditation - If you’ve suffered a setback in life, such as the loss of a loved one, ending of a job, break-up of a romantic relationship, Thomas’ grief meditation will help you rediscover your inner strength and help you move forward, stronger, with more confidence and sense of purpose. 
  
Calling All Angels - Utilize CALLING ALL ANGELS MEDITATION to immediately activate help from loved ones and guides. Thomas utilizes his channeled prayer and mediation in combination with high vibration musical undertones to alter the guides and angels that you are in need of immediate assistance. This intense meditation is to be used in times when you really need a lifeline from the Other Side!
 
Fruit Tree Meditation - Seeking an answer to a question? Need to connect with your guides for divine guidance? This special, newly designed meditation by Thomas John will help you directly connect with a high powered divine being that works through communicating with the Intuition Fruit Tree. This is a very special meditation and we have received tremendous amounts of positive feedback
   
3.     A special two hour VIP “Readings Only” group call where I will take “reading questions” and do “mini readings” throughout the call. This call will have NO teaching on it, and will only be about readings for folks. After each reading, I will summarize the “take-away” message from the call, so each reading will also present an opportunity for individual learning.  This is an opportunity to get more time with me to answer your questions. I will take intuitive and mediumship requests during this two hour, readings only call.

Calls will take place on August 5th @ 7:30pm, EST and August 25th @ 7:30PM, EST.
 
4.   An e-copy of Thomas John’s book Never Argue with a Dead Person: True and Unbelievable Stories from the Other Side.  This book is filled with comfort, love, forgiveness, and hope.  Death is not the end, it is just the beginning. 

5.    A special HOT TOPICS course series. This includes 6 30 minute, easy to digest courses where I teach on topics. These are easily downloadable and you can save them and have them forever! Each mini course has 15-20 minutes of teaching, and then a short exercise. These aren't live calls, so you can access them whenever, wherever, and even share them with your friends! 

Topics for these recordings are: 
·      How to Be Your Own Medium: How to go from beyond just “feeling” your loved ones, to getting actual   MESSAGES (NEVER BEEN TAUGHT BEFORE) 
·      How to Differentiate Between Angels, Guides, and Loved Ones
·      How the Chakras are Connected to Intuition (ALL NEW MATERIAL!) 
·      Psychometry: How to Feel the Energy of an Object
·      Chord Cutting: How to Get Rid of Negative Energy
·      Money Karma: How to remove your Fear of Abundance

These are downloadable mp3 courses, and you will have them to keep forever! Special teachings I have never done before on brand new topics---I've never taught over 90% of this material! If you have taken my courses before, this stuff is ALL new!

As you can see, I have created a package that is designed to help you develop your psychic abilities, become more aware of your surroundings, and open up spiritually, emotionally, and energetically. This is a package of materials that I feel with greatly advance your healing and personal development. The price of this program is only $97.00.
 
As I said, we are only making this package available until July 15th, so if you want to jumpstart on your healing, you should act soon. Call Barbie or myself in the office at 347-637-8592 or e-mail This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it. We are ready to speak to you and take any questions you might have.

Warmly, 
Thomas John
 
PS: Act in the next 24 hours, and you could qualify for a 15 minute, PRIVATE PHONE READING WITH ME! This will be a over the phone reading or Skype Reading. We are going to randomly select 10 people from ALL the purchases in the next 24 hours, and we will announce 10 people who will be upgraded to receive ALL the special goodies listed above, as well as a 15 minute private reading!

 

Father's Day: Reflections on Forgiveness

 

 

My father was not always a nice man (I say “was”, because even though he is still on Earth, I do not speak to him and have nothing to do with him, so I don't refer to him in the present). In fact, he was so verbally, physically, and mentally abusive, that when I was in the 9th grade, my mother had to have him put in jail to protect us, after he attempted to kill her twice. My father, paralyzed by his psychotic ways, refused to admit guilt or wrong-doing up until the day before the trial, when he shuffled into the courtroom in shackles, and turned to face us and apologized through tears. Years later, he would do other things to terrorize our family, including using my personal information to take out loans and defrauding myself and others. He is now in jail for attempting to kill his mother.

 

My father was, to say the least, a complicated man. You might read the above, and say, "Wow, he was an absolutely horrible father." He actually wasn't all bad and evil. My father and I had some wonderful moments too. I remember once, he surprised me with tickets to a charity dinner, where we got to meet hockey players. I was thrilled and we spent the day together in the sun, and collected over 100 autographs. He also loved animals, and about three years before we left him, he took in 2 stray cats.

 

Images of my father showing love and affection are often clouded, however, with more painful memories that include my father being my mother with a baseball bat. I often struggle with this---how do we reconcile the image of someone who has bad and good in them? Obviously, for some, the disparity is very clear, and we do need to terminate friendships and relationships from those that are dangerous or unhealthy. But instead of seeing some people as "good" and some people as "bad", I see it more as an internal struggle that we must continually work on.

 

A key to our spiritual growth in times of trauma, tragedy, and darkness is forgiveness. Forgiveness requires that in some capacity, we see each other Mostly, this is about our relationship with Source, and constantly revisiting and redefining that relationship. There are spectrums to rage, psychosis, generosity and harmony in all of us. Our human connectedness requires us to understand that had a few things gone a little differently in life, we could have ended up very different than the person we are now. 

 

In the wake of the Orlando terrorist attack, I am reminded of every homophobic comment that has ever been said to me. I'm also reminded of the bitchy remarks I've said myself about others ("Ew! Did you see that ugly shirt that guy is wearing?"). We will never understand fully why the Orlando shooter did what he did. It is impossible. A moment in history can never be fully known because we can never know all the emotions, thoughts, and desires that went into that specific moment.  However, an experience like this also requires us to pause for a moment and become accountable. In a way, every moment of homophobia, hatred, envy, and complacency in the wake of hate towards others, contributes to these larger moments and historical events.  Granted only one man showed up in a bar to murder people. But the energy we have all allowed in a certain moment has led to a culture of confusion, rage, complacency, and falseness. This is a moment for us to be accountable to ourselves. 

 

Many folks come to readings or events, and immediately begin to spew venom at me about their parents or loved ones. "Well, he BETTER come through and apologize to me" one lady said to me, referring to her dead father who was an alcoholic. Remember, the dead don't have agendas---it's US that have an agenda. When the soul leaves the body, they enter a place of spiritual evolvement. It is not automatic--but instead, it is hard won. But it is a place of a higher vibration.

 

Rather than start on a rage against a family member that is gone, I ask my clients to focus on how forgiveness and understanding can become a larger part of their narrative. We don't forgive for the other person, and we don't forgive to recreate history. We forgive so that we can approach the situation with a possibility for a deeper understanding of ourselves and others.

 

When I made a decision many years ago to forgive my father, I did not release him from any wrongdoing or change the fact that he was so terrible. Instead, I was able to embrace that my father, like many people, had shadow and light in him, and he ultimately allowed himself to be ruled by shadow. In turn, this destroyed my relationship with Source, and only when I was able to have faith again in Source and the Other Side, I forgave my father.

 

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